"I love you"
"I am completely devoted to you"
"I think you are amazing"
List is so long that it appears beyond my expectations. Really is is a rosy feeling. world looks like heaven. You are always in my mind. I can not live without you.
In first sight this is looking sooooooo fair, ya in really this is good but until there is no problem.
Actually I am showing this madness so that i can show you the other side of this feeling.
There are millions of lovers in this world. They are happy and cheering their lives and motivating each other and helping in the success of there friends. Love is not so easy matter to handle. Love and relations are two different thing. There are lot of relations without any love and also there are lot of loves without any relations.
So, I think, if your age is approximate 20 then there may be 90% chances that u have fallen in love already. Have you ever thought about its chemistry. There are thousands of songs which are explaining millions symptoms of love. There are thousands of stories which are explaining beauty of love. And also approximate 50% are with a sad end.
If we simply think then it look like a very simple process. A love is nothing but feeling of care and sharing of emotions. But in actual this is so complex that It has ability to kill you by 50 %. Love can kill us????!!!! hmmmm yes really.
Before explaining the real biology of love, I would like to explain the real theory of love. In actual what is love?
"Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that meal") to intense interpersonal attraction ("I love my boyfriend"). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states."
"The human body releases the cocktail of love rapture only when certain conditions are met and ... men more readily produce it than women, because of their more visual nature."
So what are these certain conditions. These conditions are very much random. Some time a simple eye contact is sufficient , and some time more complex matters like beauty, attraction, and some time even much more complex like sexual desires. The possibility is more when you have more probability of interaction. These conditions are so random that we can't predict them. So when we discuss in abstract normally love refers to interpersonal love. So love is an emotion and all emotions of human are being regulated by the central part of brain that is hypothalamus. So when ever you try to like some one (this process mostly occurs in automatic way) hypothalamus starts to release some hormones as oxytosin and vassopressin. These harmones give the feeling of attachment. These hormones are capable of clutching ur brain up to full strength. In good sense these hormones are responsible for faith and trust for any person. These are those classical hormones which delivers a feeling of bond. These hormones are responsible for your holy love with ur family and close friends.
But on the other side, your interpersonal love is due to beauty or compatibility and you try to create special feelings or if she is compatible then the above situation of bonding deliberate releasing of some other hormones. If this situation continues for 2-3 months, then these hormones will be in large quantity and will stimulate other hormones dopamine, norepinephrine, serotinin, and neural growth factors. At the initial stage these hormones are the main cause of careness and romance. But as the amount of these hormones in blood increases, these hormones create some mental and physical problems. This is the initial giddiness that comes when we're first falling in love includes a racing heart, flushed skin and sweaty palms. Dopamine is thought to be the "pleasure chemical," producing a feeling of bliss. Norepinephrine is similar to adrenaline and produces the racing heart and excitement. Together these two chemicals produce elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention. Crazed people can't think any thing rather than romance. The blood flow near ther receptor of Dopamine increased up to high extent. These receptors for dopamine -- associated with states of euphoria, craving and addiction. High levels of dopamine are also associated with norepinephrine, which heightens attention, short-term memory, hyperactivity, sleeplessness and goal-oriented behavior. In other words, couples in this stage of love focus intently on the relationship and often on little else. People in love have lower levels of serotonin and also that neural circuits associated with the way we assess others are suppressed. These lower serotonin levels are the same as those found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorders, possibly explaining why those in love "obsess" about their partner.
At this stage the sentence"LOVE IS BLIND" appears accurate. People are not able in thinking any thing else than love. This is situation when the thoughts related with romance dominates and the sex hormones testesteron and estrogen releases. These sex hormones and dopamine mutually feed back each other. This is the reason that partners feel strong affection and love after sex. Dopamine also causes a feedback to other hormones like oxytosin and serotinin, which are bonding hormones and play major role in long term relations. This stage is not good to break such emotions. Because of the high level of testesteron people feel attacking behavior. And if you reject your partner then this will increase anger in them which again stimulate the release of testesteron, and anger will be at its high. This is the situation when people do suicidal act on there partners.
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