Virginity is a dignity or lack of opportunity

GOOD EVENING

I am very happy. In the morning, when I was doing some work of my project and was feeling bored, then I dont know why I had started to think about life. I evaluated that I enjoyed many things in life, and I am planning to enjoy every moment of life. Suddenly my mobile rang, my one old friend was calling. During conversation as a fun he asked me an enthralling question. Such things normally awkward to me. He asked I have any girl friend? I replied, no, of course no, and presently I am not thinking so. He taunted that oh!!! bhaisahab, why I am wasting my life, If I am still virgin then half of my life is useless. I asked him, how? He told me that I know that. !!!!! After that, for a moment I thought, why sex is so interesting. I had always learnt that virginity is a dignity.

Every one has been telling me that character is the most precious gem of human being. So according to you, what is character? "character is an evaluation of a particular individual's moral qualities. The concept of character can imply a variety of attributes including the existence or lack of virtues such as integrity, courage, fortitude, honesty, and loyalty, or of good behaviors or habits. Moral character primarily refers to the assemblage of qualities that distinguish one individual from another.". So according to this definition, if we observe the topics, then we find that the points which have ability to interfere my discussion are honesty, and loyalty, good behaviors or habits. So does sex is a part of habit, means does it is a bad habit? Do we lose our honesty and loyalty by premarital sex. This is really very complex topic.

So what does meant by virginity. The state of virginity often has special significance, usually as something to be respected or valued. This is especially true in societies where there are traditional or religious views associating sexual exclusiveness with marriage. Female virginity is closely interwoven with personal or even family honor in many cultures, especially those known as shame societies, in which the loss of virginity before marriage is a matter of deep shame. For example, among the Bantu of South Africa, virginity testing or even the suturing of the labia majora (called infibulation) has been commonplace. Traditionally, Kenuzi girls (of the Sudan) are married before puberty (Godard, 1867), by adult men who inspect them manually for virginity (Kenedy, 1970). Female circumcision is later performed at puberty to ensure chastity.

But now the time is changing. In real sense, sex is natural desire for man. Sex is regulated by so complex reactions inside brain and body. If we look at biology of sex then we find that "In biology, sex is a process of combining and mixing genetic traits, often resulting in the specialization of organisms into male and female types. How novel it is looking. Actually main theme behind sex is that it fills a man with joy and pleasure, so, who does not want this pleasure?

As I experienced  I have listen many opinions about virginity. Now I am giving scientific point of view for virginity, There is a thin covering of tissues over vaginal canal.  This layer is so week that If we take this as indicator then no sport woman is perfectly virgin, while,  In the case of men, very less males are virgin, everyone enjoy masturbation in teen age.

Now let me come up to the main question, is virginity is any property or asset? Is this also play as important asset for a female as dowry for happy wed life. I am a man and I want that my wife should be virgin, because I am keeping my virginity safe. Now another critical question. It is very easy to test female virginity but what about male? Let us left this matter but Till now it is really very complicated matter. I still believe, sex isn't just a composition of body movements in a rhythmic fashion, but almost a spirtual act of complete commitment to the other person. Loosing your virginity is much more than sex. It's one of those things that once it's gone, it's gone forever. And, I don't understand, that how can people give THAT special of a thing to just anyone? If losing your virginity wasn't suppose to be special, wouldn't God make a self-fixing hymen?

If God is everywhere and a wedding is performed to unite two people in front of God, then why is it necessary to perform this act in front of others if you've already considered the person your partner in your heart? Where God already is? Why is the declaration of you as a married couple necessary to express your love to your partner? Isn't it more important to get married when you are both truly ready? But does that mean you have to hold off your expression of love until then?

Many of my friends told me that that you must not do any sex before marriage, this will improve your loyalty with your wife. I asked this question to one of my friend, he is in paris, most romantic city of the world, so why he is not trying sex with french women? It cost only 30 euro, but he will have a life time experience of different flavor  But surprisingly he denied it. He told that he is very loyal to his wife, which he will have. I thought, what is the main reason of this faith, after long time I concluded that he is right. Actually you virginity is a very important asset of happy life. The man/woman who do sex first time in life commonly never forget it. So if that sex partner is your life partner then this may be the guaranty of strong love.

In this world most of the peoples are learnt self dependency since childhood. Such people do not believe in virginity. They simply tells that this life is to be enjoy, so enjoy this. According to them however sex is a part of love but it is not most necessary part. If your partener is not virgin then that will not reduce your pleasure of sex. So this is not looking good to be virging till marry. But why they are not thinking that, this attitude is creating so many big problems in there society. Many of childrens do not know there fathers. ?????!!!! But I am supporting these people by this statement, If you don't know whether you are sexually compatible with someone, why would you want to commit your life to that person?’ “What if you marry someone and the sex is horrible?!”. Yes man really.Depends on how you feel, if you and your partner are both virgins then sometimes people feel theres more meaning to it, but if the both of your are inexperienced it can be very awkward.

If you and ur partner are both virgins, than it's better to do it with your partner, but if you don't have a partner or if your partner is an experienced one, then you better lose your virginity with an experienced one definitely, most guys do their first time with a prostitute, a professional prostitute and who is much more older than they are, and I think that that is a very good thing. If you want to have a girlfriend, don't be shy with them and be funny, but remember don't lose your self, be yourself, don't try to be someone else, just because you'll think that by being like other cool guys, it'll make you get a girlfriend. Just wait and the right girl will come along, and she will love for who you are.

  In present scenario I cant tell any thing. But in many case it may be lack of opportunity. But if I believe in my heart then for me, the words of wisdom.... WAIT TILL YOU ARE IN LOVE!!!! sex means nothing without love, at least for me. I love having sex with my ex even though it may not very good, but I love having sex with her because I loved her....But if I had sex with a friend whom I had no feelings for and it may be horrible and it may felt wrong. just wait till your in love   and it wont matter whos a virgin or not. According to peoples talk, in 90% cases it is lack of opportunity. But what is reality I don't know.